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Forum Rules / Enforcement of Rules - Reporting a Post
« Last post by TWD4GR on February 28, 2021, 11:22:48 am »
If you see a problem, report it. Moderators have special authority; they are responsible for this Community. But so are you. With your help, moderators can be Community facilitators, not just janitors or police.

When you see bad behavior, don’t reply. It encourages the bad behavior by acknowledging it, consumes your energy, and wastes everyone’s time. Just report it via "Report to moderator" button. If enough reports accrue, action will be taken, either automatically or by moderator intervention.

Please do not abuse the report system.

How To File a Report:
Clicking the Report button will send a message to the staff that there is post that has potentially broken our code of conduct. You will be allowed to type in a note when you report the item stating why you reported it. The report will be claimed by a moderator and handled (within 24 hours of the post). After it is resolved, you will receive a private message letting you know that it has been handled. All reports are confidential.

While not every report may require action and we certainly don't want members to get "report happy," we do want members to know that it's okay to Report items you feel violate the code of conduct - or even if it's a gray area and you are unsure.

If you have any questions regarding the feature, feel free to ask in this thread or start a conversation with any board moderator.

Our Responsibilities
There are a variety of actions that we may take in response to inappropriate behavior or content. It usually depends on the exact circumstances of a particular case. We recognize that sometimes people may say or do inappropriate things for any number of reasons. Perhaps they did not realize how their words would be perceived. Or maybe they just let their emotions get the best of them. Of course, sometimes, there are folks who just want to spam or cause trouble.

Each case requires a different approach, and we try to tailor our response to meet the needs of the situation. We'll review each situation on a case-by-case basis. In each case, we will have a diverse team investigate the content and surrounding facts and respond as appropriate, using this Code of Conduct to guide our decision.

Actions we may take in response to a flag or abuse report include, but are not limited to:
Content Removal
Content Blocking
Forum Account Suspension
Forum Account Ban
Let's work together to keep the forum a place where people feel safe to participate by being respectful of them and their time.

Thanks to GitHub for use of these guidelines under the terms of CC0-1.0.
Forum Rules / Warnings and Ban Policy
« Last post by NerdyGRL on February 23, 2021, 11:11:52 am »
As stated in our Enforcement rules, each case is handled independently and on a case-by-case basis. A member's posting history and prior warnings are taken into account.

All disciplinary measures are handled privately and must remain private between staff and member.

Warning Policy
Courtesy note - A member may receive a courtesy note to stop troublesome behavior. No percentage points are counted against your account.

Warnings - Each warning is worth 5% and counted against your account. Once you have accumulated 4 warnings (20% of 100), your next warning will be a strike.

Strike - Each strike is worth 20%. When a member has reached the strike level, they may have further limitations implemented on their account.

1 Strike = 20% of Warning Level
2 Strikes = 30 day moderation
3 Strikes = 7 Day Ban
4 Strikes = 14 day Ban
5 Strikes = Banned permanently

A member may be banned before they reach 5 strikes based on staff discretion.
Forum Rules / Re: Online Predators! PLEASE READ!!!
« Last post by NerdyGRL on June 25, 2020, 06:20:50 am »
This OP was written by @Kwiff
Forum Rules / Online Predators! PLEASE READ!!!
« Last post by NerdyGRL on April 16, 2020, 01:27:26 pm »
The internet can be a wonderful place, a place to find old friends, keep in contact with current and meet new friends.

But what happens when one of those "friends" turns out to be something a little more sinister? Someone that you never guessed they could be.
The internet holds a number of "issues" that can become a problem. I want to look at two of the biggest issues here:
  • Online/Internet Predators
  • Cyber Bullying
What they are, how to spot them and what you can do if you are a victim or know someone who is. Either on this very forum or in real life.

Now, I am not only talking about pedophiles as predators. These people can target us adults just as badly, causing immense hurt and suffering. It's these predators I want to look at first.


Online/Internet Predators

Definition: A online predator uses the Internet to hunt for victims to take advantage of ANY way, including sexually, emotionally, psychologically or financially. Online predators know how to manipulate people by creating trust and friendship where none should exist.
(Source -

Predators can come in any form or shape. They can be mothers, brothers, the boss, even that woman that sits opposite you who is the model employee. It can literally be anyone.

You see, when you're online, you can't read someone like you would if you met them in real life. People behind a computer screen can be anything they want. You don't know if I am actually sitting here wearing only a feather boa drinking margaritas out of one of those beer cup hats and a extra long straw.

You just don't know who you are talking to. If you see someone in real life, 9 out of 10 times you can get a vibe. The way the person holds themselves, talks, or the way they hold themselves when they talk.

Behind a keyboard you can't see that.

So what does happen if you are targeted by an online predator?

Well that's a good question and there isn't really set rules about the how... but they do tend to follow the same pattern:

1. Agreeing with everything you say "as if you were soul mates" or someone who just "really gets you".
2. Anxious to move from an online site, e.g. dating, or to private methods of communication such as email, instant messaging, Skype, texting, or telephone calls.
3. Asking for personal information: where you work, where you went to school etc.
4. Wanting to know about your emotional state, getting you to pour your heart out to them.
5. Start talking about how much they like you only after a few chats. They seem to be too interested too soon.
6. Trying to disrupt relationships, suggesting that your friends and family don’t understand, appreciate, or love you - but the abuser can.
7. They know things about you that you didn’t tell them – they’ve done their research.
8. They seem to know when and where you are online. They say "I know you were online because I saw your posts" or they are always showing up in the same chatroom.

9. Share a common interest.

One of these things on their own can be harmless but if you put two, three or more together then you may have an issue.
They will lure you into a false sense of security with them but behind your back they will be playing you against your friends and family. Predators can be male or female and prey on both male and female. They don't gender discriminate.

When you discover you have been the victim of a online predator, then you can see the things that they have done or were doing - how they have turned you against people you thought were friends. Well, they always were your friends, but your mind had been played with. Your thoughts were twisted.

This will leave you feeling vulnerable and embarrassed that you let the person take advantage of you for as long as they have and the feeling will make you hate yourself for letting it happen to you.

HOWEVER, this forum is our sanctuary and I want ALL members to feel comfortable logging on and enjoying the forum just as much as anyone else here. Therefore, staff NEEDS you to TELL US when something is going on. COME to one of the admins, one of the mods, the contents, Roman... we can't help you if we don't know.

Even if you THINK a friend on here is being harassed by someone, please tell us. We will help you and we will do it discreetly.

On a PERSONAL level - Admins here have a ZERO (0) tolerance policy on people who exhibit manipulative or blackmail(ish) behavior. If you gave someone your email, phone number, etc... or you said something about someone and now they are threatening to expose that information if you report them, COME TO ME! I will help you!

In real life, out there in the wide world, if you think you are being targeted by an online predator, you can again come to us, we can help or go to your local police. Keep copies of the correspondence between you. Call your local help lines. If you are a child/minor, speak to your parents, your teachers or go to the police directly.

You have a voice. Do not be ashamed to use it.
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